Don’t Call Me Beloved

I recently went through a huge loss. I lost a friend; or I lost the illusion that I had a friend. It has been hard to heal from this loss. After 3 years I have come to the realization that this is not a healthy relationship and although with time and prayer I will be able to forgive, I will not be reconnecting with this person. I don’t believe that we can encourage growth in each other and some actions kill any incentive to rebuild trust.

Although I have come to this decision, I have not shared it with her and yesterday morning I woke up to a text message from her that referred to me as Beloved. Just another reason that I need to let go.

I Googled Beloved and found this:

be-lov-ed

/bi’lǝv(i)d/

adjective

1. dearly loved.

synonyms: darling, dear, dearest, precious, adored, much loved, cherished, treasured, prized, highly regarded, admired, esteemed, worshiped, revered, venerated, idolized

“her beloved brother”

noun

1. a much loved person

“he watched his beloved”

synonyms: sweetheart, love, darling, dearest, lover, girlfriend, boyfriend;

paramour; informal steady, (main) squeeze, boo; literally swain;

dated beau, young man, man friend, young lady, lady friend;

archaic doxy

“he watched his beloved

Ron Edmondson says Beloved is one of the best words in the bible. He believes that it portrays the kind of love only God can truly give because it has to be unconditional. I don’t have to give God the same kind or amount of love to be His beloved because God is able to give perfect and unfailing love.

On a site that offers Greek word studies it says: “Where the word beloved is used with a possessive pronoun the article may occur but is not shown. For example: ‘my beloved’ (Matthew 12:18) is translated literally meaning “the beloved of me’. >>>Read More

By the way, have I mentioned that I am thoroughly offended by anyone calling me Beloved except God, someone quoting scripture or my spouse. The very word implies an intimacy and a relationship that is not common and I am not interested in muddying with anyone that doesn’t revere or cherish me.

Is part of my response to this text message pure emotion? YES!

Am I processing my pain in a blog? Yes.

Do I think I will regret this later? No.

When I was a little girl, my Nana told me to never waste my affections on someone I wouldn’t marry. Some things should be saved for special relationships…that can never be more than a list of two. In my book those roles can only be filled by my Savior and my spouse….every place I read today made my feelings stronger and stronger.

You have to process your own beliefs your own way, but this woman thinks you should keep pet names to yourself if you can’t commit to them.

Image Credit: http://al-lachner.blogspot.com/2013/06/remind-me.html