On Monday April 20, 2026 I was scrolling on Facebook and a video caught my attention. The video was by Amy E. Sousa, MA Depth Psychology. Ms. Sousa is an embodiment educator, writer, lecturer. and boundaries coach. Her website is at knownheretic.com. I was compelled to watch her video several times, even though I did not agree with her. Eventually I emailed it to myself to return to it with fresh eyes. Today was the day.
I watched her video again, many times, because although I do not agree with her, I don’t know if it the hot, angry librarian look that intrigued me or her absolute sureness of self that makes me want to question whether or not I want to give my time to her.
If you want to watch her video, I was not able to share it here. Here is a link that worked at the time I created this article: THE AUDACITY: Response to the men playing crybully while stealing women’s rights.
Ms. Sousa uses words that lead me to believe that she believes that transwomen are men. We do not agree on this viewpoint. I just want to state this right out of the starting point.
Sousa feels it is safe for transwomen to use the men’s restroom. She thinks that if transwomen feel unsafe using the men’s bathroom, she suggests they argue this with men to create more safety in the men’s facilities. She also considers it being a good idea to work with men to create expansion on the definition of what is masculine.
Sousa feels strongly that it is not women and girl’s responsibility to help anyone feel safe from men. Men are not a marginalized group. Generally, this can be a true statement, however, I have met men that can disagree with her statement. Some men, even cis men, can be marginalized. Although Sousa, tends to be more direct than I am drawn to, that too might be what I am drawn to. She is very sure of herself and that could be for many very good reasons. Everyone has their reasons. We need to listen to people; I believe the fact that we don’t, is part of the problems we have as a society. Even though, I don’t agree, her bravado and precise speech tell me her advocacy is important to her. As much as I want equal rights for everyone, I have been frustrated by a young person who was angered by me, because they did not tell me their pronouns, and I got it wrong.
One argument that Sousa made, that I am starting to believe, might be a good one is to fight for legislation for gender neutral restrooms or facilities for gender expansive people. My reasoning for this, is not because I have a problem with anyone in the bathroom, but some people do and some for very good reason. Also if there were more “family” bathrooms then fathers with girls would have an easier time when they need to help their small children in the restroom and young ladies who are not prepared for the start of their cycles would hopefully find the supplies they need until they get home. More “family” restrooms would serve many types of people.
“When some men use their identity labels as a reason for why men deserve access to women and girls’ spaces it normalizes and desensitizes increasing boundary violations against women and girls. It degrades the existing boundaries that women and girls fought long and hard for.” Sousa
I am wondering if there are abuse victims that need transgender females to fight for their own bathrooms through legislation or at least talk to business owners to make gender neutral accommodations where possible.
I did not write this article to attack Amy E. Sousa. Until I saw her viewpoint, I could only see what I believed. I appreciate that she could help me see another side. As a transgender person might argue, they have been an abuse victim, so women should understand why they would not want to use the men’s restroom; what Sousa might be saying is that the transwoman should have compassion on the woman that is a sex abuse survivor and should not have to share the restroom with someone who has traits of a man, even if they would prefer not to.
This article is not meant to be anti-trans or anti-man or anti-woman. This article is meant to share perspectives. I would love to engage in healthy and caring conversation on this if you would like to share your opinion, please do.
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My name is Summer. That is how you can call me. I hope that I am a blessing to you. I am not perfect. I will fall again. But I am forgiven. For anyone reading this that isn’t a Christian, unapologetically, I am a Jesus Follower, but I believe there is room for lots of beliefs and religions in the world. It is not my intent to offend people with different beliefs than I have and I would be open to open-minded conversations with no goals of changing anyone’s mind, but sharing information. If you are interested in becoming a Jesus Follower…Do you know Jesus? Do want the Holy Spirit to fill you and give you understanding and salvation? Ask Him. Want someone to pray with you? Contact me.
If you would like to know Jesus as your friend, but want to make this amazing commitment by yourself please pray something like this: Thank you Jesus that You are the Son of God, the God that created heaven and earth. Thank you Jesus that You came to earth in the form of a man so that You would be able to empathize with my humanity. Thank You that You did this in order to fulfill the promises You made at the foundation of the world. I realize that I am a sinner and do things that hurt myself and keep myself away from you. Thank You that You died for my sins so that You could defeat death and bring me into Your life. Please forgive me. I ask You to be Lord of my life. I ask you to heal my hurts and show me what my new life, empowered by You looks like. Thank You for Your mercy.
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