I just saw this video of a lovely woman crying because she was abused by ignorant people because they only saw a fat woman and decided she was at the store to buy all the Easter candy. She didn’t buy any candy at this trip. She bought shoes, but what she bought was irrelevant. The audacity of these strangers was astounding.
I have been fat all my life. Even when I was young and rode my bike everywhere and danced every day. I have worked hard to teach myself healthy eating habits and then adjust to food sensitivities that come with chronic illness. I workout everyday but my workout is modified for my body that is in chronic pain because if I do too much, I can’t function the next day. I have gone to orientation for bariatric surgery, where I learned what I already thought was true, this procedure was not something I am willing to do to my already sick body, no matter how many letters my doctor’s office or insurance company sends me. I was on Mounjaro for over a year, lived with horrible side effects, lost 50 lbs, and then it stopped working and when I learned I had gained 15 lbs back, I stopped taking it. Why do this to myself and spend this kind of money for no success? I have tried some supplements that seem to be helping without any side effects, but I have made peace with myself.
It is the monsters in the world that have nothing better to do than pick on people just living their lives that bother me. Last week I went to Walmart. We bought a storage container, my wife’s prescriptions and got our COVID vaccines. I was in a fibromyalgia flare. I was in pain so I probably had a bit of a limp. No one who doesn’t know me, doesn’t know that I have lost 65 lbs, they just see a fat woman with a limp. I couldn’t see them, because they were cowards, but I could hear the whale calls as we walked out the front door. I decided to keep walking. To just let it go and get home to rest because I didn’t feel good, but I really wanted to tell those stupid people that they are mean and thoughtless and for all the other fat people that stuff their feelings inside or go get some junk food and forget about it, because they don’t know how to deal with the pain of strangers’ abuse, they can shove their whale calls up their ass!
Karen G Clemenson and went home and probably took a nap, I don’t remember. I rarely eat for comfort anymore but I used to. But I would be lying if I didn’t feel some pain from those heartless people at the store, and I could totally empathize with the woman in the video I saw tonight.
I know fat people and it isn’t something we sit around talking about all the time, but sometimes it comes up. Teasing someone about their weight or even talking to them about what they are eating in front of other people doesn’t encourage anyone to change, in fact it makes them upset and encourages them to run to food because food is probably their coping mechanism. It was mine, sometimes it still is, even though my portions are smaller and healthier than they used to be. You might think that is funny but we all have something we rely on. Maybe you drink a beer or two or more, maybe you work a lot, maybe you garden or shop or cook or read or run…Whatever you have learned to rely on is what you need and until you can learn to replace it with something healthier (if it isn’t good for you) you are going to always run to it.
Many times my posts start out on Facebook in rough draft form. If people respond, I know it is a good topic. One viewpoint I don’t think about often is the other side. There are people that can’t gain weight. They suffer because when they get sick, they lose dangerous amounts of weight and if they fall they don’t have padding to protect their bones. One person mentioned their sibling that had the opposite problem that we shared. It helped remind me that, even though most people might not ridicule a very skinny person, or not in the same way, or as often, weight is an issue that we all face. Please teach your children to be kind. No one knows anyone’s situation until they do. I had a boss that had always been thin until she became chronically ill and the medication she had to take caused her to gain a lot of weight. She worked long hours. We were in retail, which is very physical work. She worked harder than any of us. She wasn’t stuffing herself with food. This story is common. When I see people. I assume nothing about them, because I know nothing about them.
Weight gain or weight loss can be caused by sickness, hormones, stress, abuse, genetics, medications, many reasons that might be out of control of people, as well as eating too much or not moving enough. But being mean, that is always a choice.
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My name is Summer. That is how you can call me. I hope that I am a blessing to you. I am not perfect. I will fall again. But I am forgiven. For anyone reading this that isn’t a Christian, unapologetically, I am a Jesus Follower, but I believe there is room for lots of beliefs and religions in the world. It is not my intent to offend people with different beliefs than I have and I would be open to open-minded conversations with no goals of changing anyone’s mind, but sharing information. If you are interested in becoming a Jesus Follower…Do you know Jesus? Do want the Holy Spirit to fill you and give you understanding and salvation? Ask Him. Want someone to pray with you? Contact me.
If you would like to know Jesus as your friend, but want to make this amazing commitment by yourself please pray something like this: Thank you Jesus that You are the Son of God, the God that created heaven and earth. Thank you Jesus that You came to earth in the form of a man so that You would be able to empathize with my humanity. Thank You that You did this in order to fulfill the promises You made at the foundation of the world. I realize that I am a sinner and do things that hurt myself and keep myself away from you. Thank You that You died for my sins so that You could defeat death and bring me into Your life. Please forgive me. I ask You to be Lord of my life. I ask you to heal my hurts and show me what my new life, empowered by You looks like. Thank You for Your mercy.
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