Feel Your Own Feelings There are people that I have withdrawn so completely from, emotionally, that they don’t know me at all. I have known them my whole life. I love them. I know they love me. At an earlier time in my life, I learned it was dangerous to trust them...

Learn the Art of Acceptance Lord I don’t understand peace. It is so easily lost. I think I am so sad about the killing in Nice, France because I had hoped for a longer break between killing and terror and hate acts. Lord, I ask that You would judge by Your cross my...

Have a Love Affair With Yourself What a novel idea; one I had never considered. I assumed that this chapter would be full of new thoughts and maybe it would inspire a lot in me. I read this chapter 3 times… 6/24/2016 Many codependent people would never dream of...

Chapter 9: Undependence My mother needs me to depend on her. It is part of her codependence identity: approval seeking and need for other’s happiness because that is all she has. I can’t be healthy and center my life around anyone else but God. Ways to become...

Remove the Victim “We’re so careful to see that no one gets hurt. No one, that is, but ourselves.” Al-Anon Member “Codependents are caretakers – rescuers. They rescue, then they persecute, then they end up victimized. Study the Karpmen Drama Triangle,” he said....

Chapter 6: Don’t Be Blown About by Every Wind Denial: Under-reacting to events that seem too big Reactionary: Urgently and compulsively reacting in anger, guilt, shame, self-hate, worry, hurt, controlling, gestures, care taking acts, depression, desperation or fury to...

Detachment Detachment is not detaching from loved ones but the agony of involvement. Questions We Must Ask of Ourselves What am I feelings? What do I think? What do I need to take care of myself? Observational Reading Questions I am worried about myself. I don’t make...