Chapter 9: Undependence My mother needs me to depend on her. It is part of her codependence identity: approval seeking and need for other’s happiness because that is all she has. I can’t be healthy and center my life around anyone else but God. Ways to become...

Remove the Victim “We’re so careful to see that no one gets hurt. No one, that is, but ourselves.” Al-Anon Member “Codependents are caretakers – rescuers. They rescue, then they persecute, then they end up victimized. Study the Karpmen Drama Triangle,” he said....

Chapter 6: Don’t Be Blown About by Every Wind Denial: Under-reacting to events that seem too big Reactionary: Urgently and compulsively reacting in anger, guilt, shame, self-hate, worry, hurt, controlling, gestures, care taking acts, depression, desperation or fury to...

Detachment Detachment is not detaching from loved ones but the agony of involvement. Questions We Must Ask of Ourselves What am I feelings? What do I think? What do I need to take care of myself? Observational Reading Questions I am worried about myself. I don’t make...

CARETAKING CODEPENDENT CHARACTERISTICS Codependents may: think and feel responsible for other people—for other people’s feelings, thoughts, actions, choices, wants, needs, well-being, lack of well-being, and ultimate destiny. feel anxiety, pity, and guilt when other...

What’s Codependency, and Who’s Got It? Chapter 1 & 2: Jessica’s Story & Other Stories I did not identify with any specific stories in this chapter but I have identified with aspects of their codependency. I have sought relationships with people with food...